Infertility Question – Is It My Fault?

via mirror.co.uk

"Most of us ask that at one time or another when trying to conceive our babies is elusive.

When you ask yourself that question– often asked only to ourselves, rarely out loud to someone else, consider the relative unimportantness of the question.

Let’s say, for the sake of the conversation, that it’s completely your fault, (I’m not even sure how many circumstances present themselves that way, but let’s play this out). Is it really your fault? Are you considering it “your fault” because you have a genetic abnormality? Is it your fault if you have a low sperm count or diminished ovarian reserve? 

Is it your fault if you have scar tissue? Or if you had to have an operation that affected your fertility?

Is it your fault if your sperm aren’t as mobile as they need to be? Or your fault that your AMH (Anti Mullerian Hormone) is too low?

Is it your fault if your cause of infertility is idiopathic– unexplained?

We like answers.

Sometimes we even like bad answers over no answers.  I remember waking up after a diagnostic fertility surgery to listen to my surgeon relate how beautifully everything went and how there was no sign of disease or problems in my uterus. I burst into tears. All I wanted was an answer. I wanted a fixable answer. She thought I was insane. You probably don’t.

We like answers and we like reasons. This happened because. We like cause and effect. Of course we do! Then we can avoid what we don’t want to have happen. And if we can look back and say, “when I did A, then B and C occurred. I really liked C, so I’ll just do A and B again”, that’s happy making..."

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